The best way you can help is to just be present with them and not Let me make a distinction of what I am NOT saying here: I am not saying to reassure him. I am not saying to feel sorry for him or to pity him. I’m saying just be willing to be there with him and give him the space to just be.He’ll ultimately need to work this out himself anyway, so anything you do that supports that is helpful and anything you do that interferes with that is unhelpful.If you handle him like he has a problem that needs to be solved, he’ll feel like it really is a problem and he’ll feel even worse.On the other hand, if you accept him, he’ll probably see things for the illusion that they really are.:) There are tons of guys out there who have complexes about their jobs and the amount of money they make and what it “means” about them.Not everyone is present enough to see through it all, but the whole job/money and ego/identity crisis is a big illusion that men suffer from.He’ll (eventually) see that it doesn’t really matter and he’s making an emotional issue out of nothing.The bottom line is that if you realize that everything is fine and there is no “problem” here, it will be a helpful energy for him to be around.
Whatever your circumstances, there are some techniques you can use to date someone you previously rejected.
It consumes my entire consciousness to the point where the world is gray and everything is meaningless, like I’m suffocating and trying to get a breath of inner peace. So I know that when I’ve been overwhelmed or stressed by these types of situations it has been tough on the people who love me and want me to be in a good place.
When I feel so overwhelmed and suffocated by my own problems I go completely cold. All I want is to get out of the life situation that I feel is so unbearable, in this case it happened to be my job/financial situation. The hardest thing in the world can be to accept that ultimately they need to solve it for themselves.
It didn’t matter whether or not a girlfriend or anyone else thought I was great, I simply didn’t feel like I was measuring up to my own standards.
I’m a perfectionist, so the feeling of not measuring up to my own standards is unbearable to me. It was up to me to take the actions necessary to bring consciousness to my own situation and resolve the fundamental problem. You want to seem to be free from any pain and suffering.