Not because they are gay, but because Sarah Paulson is dating the crypt keeper.” Depictions of significant lesbian age differences were mostly the stuff of subculture before this year, when a number of films pushed the phenomenon into the mainstream spotlight.
Three films released in 2015 that centered on lesbian characters — Paul Weitz’s Grandma, Peter Sollett’s Freeheld, and most recently, Todd Haynes’ Carol — all involved intergenerational romantic relationships.
“I didn’t want her to feel taken advantage of later on.
I just wanted to hang back and let her be a young woman in the city.” Both women were living in the Bay Area at the time, working as software engineers.
Everybody’s cool with women dating up, so long as the older person they’re dating is a man.
Increased visibility for intergenerational lesbian relationships doesn’t only shed light on the public discomfort they inspire — these depictions also reflect the real-life lesbians who’ve been dating like this since the dawn of always.
Women who date significantly up or significantly down radically subvert heteronormative standards for what’s appropriate when it comes to sex and love.They joked about their jobs and Dungeons & Dragons.“I hadn’t had that close a friendship in years, honestly,” Martela adds.This past March, they got married, and in April they moved to Chicago to build a life together.But they’re rarely read as the wives that they are. Stop.”“Power exchanges between women are always pathologized,” Myles says.